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High Conflict Communication
Learning to communicate with a high conflict person is akin to learning a new language. Everything you've learned about strong communication (I statements, "I feel..." "I think...") go out the window when you are exchanging words with a difficult person. They don't actually care how you think or feel, in fact - they'll likely use your words against you. Andrea can teach you the language you need to use to effectively communicate with the high conflict person in your life. Learn what to say, when to say it and when to say nothing at all.
High Conflict Separation/Divorce
Are you thinking of leaving someone with high conflict tendencies? Have you already left the relationship and feel lost in the broken legal system? Whether you are just beginning the process of unravelling what was, what is and what will be OR you are smack dab in the middle of the hurricane, Andrea can help you make sense of how you got here AND how to make the craziness stop.
High Conflict Co-Parenting
You thought leaving was going to be the hardest part. You thought the court system would *see* the coercive control and high conflict behaviours and help protect your kids from that abuse. But now that you are parenting apart, you're beginning to realize that that your Ex isn't going to change and the courts have no interest (or time) to help improve your co-parenting conflict. Now what? How are you going to co-parent your children with someone who abused you and is now treating the kids as pawns to try and continue to hurt you, regardless of how it affects them? It's not easy but with some insight into high conflict behaviours and tools on how to manage them, you can start living your life again rather than just surviving it. Andrea can show you how.
High Conflict Interpersonal Relationships
Do you have a family member that stirs up drama from thin air? Or a colleague everyone walks on egg shells around because no one wants to *set them off*? Have you been spinning in circles trying to fix the relationship only to end up feeling worse? It's time to stop doing what you've always done, it's not working, and take back control of what you can change. Andrea can help.
Stop Attracting High Conflict People Into Your Life
Have you vowed to never let a high conflict person into your life again? Declared you can spot a narcissist a mile away? Read every book on co-dependancy? Watched every Reel or Tik Tok on how high conflict people woo you into their lives, putting you on a pedestal and then knocking you down at the knees?And do you still keep attracting and inviting high conflict people into your life? Believing *this time* will be different because you know better?But also secretly worried you might be making the same mistakes as before? Not fully trusting yourself or the person you are with?
"Our patterns run deeper than our desire for change." - Andrea LaRochelle
Just because you know better now doesn't mean you are able to put that knowledge into action and actually change your patterns. Pattern shifting requires a re-wiring of the brain - which sounds tricky but is surprisingly easy with the right tools and strategies.
If you are ready to 1) Get Real 2) Get Results and 3) Get Moving In a new direction so you can start inviting non-high conflict people into your life, Andrea can help.