How To Be The Perfect Co-Parent (and other myths)
It’s the weirdest thing, co-parenting has become something people have to do perfectly. Considering perfect doesn’t exist, when did...
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andrea1043
- May 9
- 2 min
Would *Staying* Have Been Easier?
Most people think leaving is going to be the hardest part. That once you were free from the abuse, the control and the manipulations that...
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andrea1043
- May 9
- 2 min
How is Control Controlling You?
“We feel the need to control when we feel out of control.” A.L. Of course you feel the need to control, your life is totally out of...
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andrea1043
- Nov 23, 2021
- 7 min
High Conflict Christmas in Two Homes Survival Guide.
Do you feel like your children are *missing out* by not spending time with both their parents on Christmas Day? Have your children become...
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andrea1043
- Nov 7, 2021
- 2 min
Stop Attack/Defend Behaviour.
I have often heard parents say, “I hate my former spouse, you’ll never guess what he or she just did/said.” Whenever I hear one parent...
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andrea1043
- Nov 7, 2021
- 4 min
The 4D's of High Conflict Divorce
I’m done. I quit. I can’t do this anymore. I give up. It’s exhausting trying to raise children with someone who hates you. You’re done....
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andrea1043
- Nov 7, 2021
- 4 min
5 Strategies for Co-Parenting with a Narcissist For People Who Want to Stay Sane.
Co-parenting with a Narcissist will make you feel like pulling your hair out, hourly. Perhaps you don’t even know you are co-parenting...
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andrea1043
- Nov 7, 2021
- 3 min
They Cycle of Hope.
Hope is one of my favorite words. It implies that regardless of how ugly and messy things are right now, in this moment... you believe...
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andrea1043
- Nov 7, 2021
- 5 min
Crumbs In the Butter Conflict.
The dinnertime rule in our home is as follows: Eat as much dinner as you want or don’t want, but if you don’t eat what is on your plate,...
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andrea1043
- Nov 7, 2021
- 5 min
The #1 Reason You Get Triggered.
It happens to the best of us. You go about our days/weeks/months actively disengaging from the conflict your co-parent likes to send your...
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andrea1043
- Nov 7, 2021
- 4 min
Three Communication Patterns of High Conflict Parents.
You have just written the perfect email to your children’s other parent. You have used all the tools in your tool box to ensure your...
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andrea1043
- Nov 7, 2021
- 4 min
But It's Not Fair!
I hear the statement “But it’s not fair” daily from clients, often several times an hour. “It’s not fair that I only see the kids 50% of...
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andrea1043
- Oct 19, 2021
- 2 min
Boundaries? ICK.
“Setting boundaries is a way of caring for myself. It doesn’t make me mean, selfish, or uncaring (just) because I don’t do things your...
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andrea1043
- Oct 6, 2021
- 3 min
How did this happen to me?
How did I get into this mess? Co-parenting with someone who appears to be on a singular mission to destroy me, seemingly unaware of what...
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